Caring for someone

My mum has been caring for my dad since his stroke a year ago. What help can she get so she doesn't get worn out? She is 75 and my dad is 78.

It is really important for your mother to look after her own health, as she needs to keep well in order to carry on in a caring role. She can also look for some local support or help at home in order to share the load.

Your parents’ local Social services are responsible not just for assessing the care needs of your father, but also, the needs of your mother as his carer. This can include her having regular breaks from her caring responsibilities. So the first step to getting help is to contact them.

There may also be a local carer’s centre offering support and information, a carer's support group, providing a place to talk to other carers, and local voluntary organisations, such as Crossroads offering short term breaks or respite. Some stroke clubs also run groups for carers, or simply provide a much needed break.

Make sure your mum and dad have had a full benefits check, to see if they could claim Attendance Allowance, Carer's Allowance, or any other benefit or pension top-up.

Our carer's guide gives more information and strategies on coping with caring for someone who has had a stroke.