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my gran

Hi my gran who is 84 years old has had a stroke on saturday .
she has lost all movement on her left side of her body and her vision had deterioted as well.
my gran is still able to verbally communicate with us however she doesnt think she has had a stroke as she feels fine in her self except feeling very tired. is this common after a stroke?

after a consultation with the consultant today 22/10/2014) we have been told that she has developed pneomonia and is back nil by mouth. we have been asked if we have talked about to resus her if it came down to the worst.has anyone experiences simular story and if so has your family member come out of hospital.

im really worried that we are going to lose her, my gran is the world to me and i dont know how myself, my mum and brothers are going to cope if it turn out we are unable to take her home. none of us are sleeping very well either which is hard too.

if anyone could help it would be much appricated.


mental peculiarity after stroke

My husband, who is 80, had a stroke in Jan this year affecting his left side. He also has cognitive issues, some confusion, lack of concentration etc. In the last couple of months he has started to read books again and recently he spent several hours with his nose in a Dick Francis novel, which i was really pleased to see until he stopped reading and informed me that his name was Derek Franklin (the novel's main character) and was on the run from a criminal gang after the death of his brother. He did not know where he was, although he appeared to find me quite familiar, and said he was waiting for his chauffeur, Brad, to come & get him to take him to London. He stayed in character all that day and refused to go up to bed that night, in case Brad came for him - insisted I put his outdoor shoes and a jacket on him and then sat in his chair, waiting. Fortunately he is not very mobile or he would have carried out his intention to wait outside the front door. He eventually fell asleep and was OK in the morning - phew. He appeared to have no memory of the episode. Since then he has had several lesser but similar events after seeing a tv program or reading about some disaster, war etc. On one occasion he spent 2 days insisting I conserve drinking water because there was going to be a water shortage and on another he woke me in the morning to tell me he had come home in the middle of the night after going into the local polic station to warn them there was a gang of criminals after him and that, as a result I was in danger but that there was a ring of police around the village where we live. This one lasted until about midday. Has anyone had experience of anything similar?

hi im new I had a stroke in

im new I had a stroke in march im 48 yrs old my friend has been looking after me since then but it has all become too much for and she wants me to leave I have nowhere to go and no-one to talk to im too upset and don't know what to do next

I'm new


Sorry to hear your situation, in the first instance I would contact the stroke association support line on:

0303 3033 100

They may be able to offer some support

From a practical point of view it may be worth contacting your GP of local council and ask for adult social services

Remember you are not alone in this albeit at the moment it may feel like it


My husband is shouting me out

My name is pat my husband had a Tia in April he seam fine after wouldst but this 8 weeks he has got depression and has left are home and is been very cold not wanting to see me I have tried everything to help him but he knocking me back people keep telling me not anything I did but I am so hurt my has he shut me out can anyone tell

I was only 23!

Hi my name is Lorna and I am 24. I have just joined this stroke association because I would love to hear from other people who have suffered from a stroke and are around the same age as me. I had my stroke on the 21st May 2014 and I have felt I have been so lucky that it hasn't affected my mobility. Apparently it has affected the sensory part of my brain which I constantly use as I am a hairdresser. 2 months after having the stroke I went back to work. I was glad to go back as 2 months off just seemed like forever. I only went back part time hours though which were Tuesday to Saturday 9am - 2pm. After a couple of weeks been back I noticed that I was getting more tired and my eyes would twitch because of how tired I was. In the evening I would get home from work and just look forward to going to bed and having a good night's sleep ready for the next day. Only recently I have been getting even more tired and finding it really hard to deal with. Been a hairdresser is a very stressful job and I find it takes me a lot longer to do a task and after it I need a sit down as I feel drained. As of yesterday I've has to leave work again and go back on the sick as I feel like how I felt not long after I had the stroke which was getting things muddled up i.e the time and words, I would put the wrong number or word first. I feel exhausted all the time and all I want to do is rest.. not much of a life for a 24 year old! I would like to hear from someone who has been through what I have been through and could tell me if these feelings are normal and if likely to improve. I would also like advice as to what i can do about the way I feel. Im finding it very hard to deal with and family and friends can't help as they haven't been through what I have been through but are trying as much as they can. Thank you for reading and I will look forward to hearing from you :)

your stroke question

Hi. I am 43 and I knkw that will seem old to you but for a stroke it is very young. I am healthy but had the stroke after a visit to the chiropractor tore an artery in my neck. I had a cerebellar stroke.
I am 9 1/2 months post stroke but it took 8 months to get a diagnosis. I am so stressed, so anxious and so depressd because my old life and career is over. I tried to go back to work but the fatique and brain fog was too much.
everyone has different symptoms and different recoveries but please find a psychiatrist and a psychologist. They can tag team on the emotional problems. This happens to everyone with a stroke, be glad you are alive eventhough its frustrating. I was in exactly your spot, & a little bit of time and finally finding doctors and getting the right treatment I can tell you that things get better.
My psychiatrist is actually the one who recognized brain injury therapy was needed when 2 neurologists kept telling me i was fine. Dont compare yourself today to your "pre-stroke" self because its not realistic. Compare yourself to what it felt like in the hospital right after. Then you will see you are improving.
Find the mental support you need because anxiety feeds the cycle of not healing. when someone told me this I thought it meant that I was making it up and this was all in my head. please no that is not what this means a stroke does damage to your brain and anxiety and depression if part of what has to be treated along with your physical symptoms.

I was 21!

Hi, I'm 24 to & 3 years ago I suffer a major stroke. I had 1 year left at uni when I had the stroke but went back last year to do it part time, over 2 years. I was in hospital for 9 months and decided to take another year out to get myself physical perpared. I'm still in a wheelchair but can walk short amounts, thankful because of our age I'm still improving everyday it's very slow and everyday I wish I could wake up and be my old self. I was really tied for about the first 18 months, but in order to get me back I attent 1 thing, for a few hours, on week one. Then every week I added 1 more thing, this could be anything but talk to your boss and maybe do 1 day one week, then 2 days the next ect. Small steps. Also see if you could do some later shiftes, I find I need time in the morning doing very little before I can start. The feeling you have are normal I still feel the same, and keep remerber what I once had. But my view is I have another 50/60 years of my live and if it takes 10 years to get back everything I had then I have to keep fitting. You more and likely keep how your feeling too your self I know I do but it good to talk, but get it out there you will feel better if others know what your going through.

Good luck

I was onlly 23-oops

Hi Lorna

Iprobably can't offer much advice because that is what Iwould like myself but Ithink the fact that you are sooooooooo young must be in your favour?

Iwanted to reply to your posting though. Hope you don't mind?

1Wherre do you live?
2) Which hospital did

you attend?

I am not allowed to put my email address here unfortunately

Hey. Thanks for getting back

Hey. Thanks for getting back to me. I live in Stratford in Manchester. And I was at hope hospital in Manchester. They have a main stroke unit. So have you had a stroke then?

7to Hey thanks for getting back to me

Yess Ihad a stroke in Aug. 2013 but IamA BITolder than you and retired. Ilive in between lLoughborough and Ashby de la Zouch and live in Coalville, Leics, Will say more later ok/

Sorry Stetford in Manchester

Sorry Stetford in Manchester


We live in Angelsey now after my wife Pearl suffered a serious stroke 5 years ago. Since then she has had a kidney removed when diagnosed with an aggressive cancer.a year ago. So far she has excellent care from The MRI in Manchester and I have become her full time carer. After 12 months of non stop caring I feel that I am becoming "exhausted" and need a bit of regular time off. Pearl can look after her toileting needs and manages minor tasks BUT as soon as I leave her in the house I feel guilty and come back quickly. How have others solved these problems as I am sure that I am not alone in this ?

Hi Tony, sorry hearing this.

Hi Tony, sorry hearing this. Second sorry if jumbled words my two strokes messed up writing reading big time!

Suggest in person support quickly soon possibly can.

From gp, social worker, someone known in care team or help line here stroke association excellent really are!

Despite muddled words I loads experience care world of!

Sounds like urgently quickly get care package sorted acceptable both you plus off time totally free all things you need it!

Yes guilty you'll feel but nobody human being working no break all years no time off!

Time now care yourself! Please do help line fantastic supporting they are!

Tell how get on soon.



Hi Tony,
You certainly are not alone in how you're feeling! I don't know about you, but for me it's a 'sick to the stomach' feeling, pure panic and 'what am I doing'. Even before I go out, I have a knot in my tummy worrying about what might happen.
But, going out is sometimes necessary, so we should be able to do it. Going out is good for us so we should make time to do it. Most important for me, one that had to be pointed out to me and my eyes are pricking thinking about it, going out is my husbands present to me - he can't surprise me with flowers or chocolates any more but he can say that he wants me to go out for a little while and have a nice time.
It still feels completely weird but I am managing increasingly longer and more adventurous trips, but everything is very well planned - as much for my peace of mind as for my husbands comfort and safety.
A really important one for me is contact, my husbands mobile went back to work after his stroke and he's never wanted another - I think there is some concern that he couldn't text anyway - but he knows how to answer the landline. He doesn't normally answer the landline because of his aphasia but if I go out we both write a 'timetable' and agree what time I will call him, he then answers the phone at that time and we can have a little chat - at least if he's answered I know he's safe, if he didn't answer I would need to call a friend or neighbour to go to check......
One time I don't fail to go out is every couple of months when my husband has a pub lunch with his old friend. We started going all together, then I just dropped them at the pub (literally getting my husband to the table!) and picking them up again, now his friend picks him up from home and brings him back and while he's out, I go for lunch with my friends! It took a while for my husband to trust his friend as he's always relied on me so much (you know the silly things like forgetting which foot to use to step up!).
It was a real milestone for us this week - I went to work - I was looking for something on a Saturday as I lose the will to live a bit with football match after football match on the tele. Saturday's are easier as my son's often home and he's plenty big enough to keep an eye on my hubby and implement an emergency plan if necessary. Equally my hubby makes sure my son doesn't have too many girls visit in one go! I think my hubby's going to really enjoy having a bit of time to himself, yesterday he surprised me by having painted my bird table, he said it took him four hours - mostly thinking around the logistics I would think - but it's beautiful and it's something he did for me when it's so hard for him. It means a lot.
Before I go out I make sure that everything's where it should be, I check if my husband wants a 'packed lunch' or anything buying in if I'll be out over a meal time. We have our agreed times for me to ring home (I sound like a teenager!) and I ask him what he might do while I'm out in case we need to prepare anything. I still worry, which is why I call, but he feels perfectly safe which is the important thing and if we are going to do this for the next thirty or forty years then we really do have to get used to working through some of the problems - they won't go away!
The hardest for me is the things we used to do together, things that kind of 'defined' our relationship. We met in the sauna and I can't go to the pool now alone - I tried it once and blubbed like a mad woman. Maybe if I persevered it would get easier but it's kind of lost its appeal. Having tea and cake with my friend in the village tea shop has definite appeal though!
Maybe you could try some of the ideas that I've found have helped me, take it gently at first and perhaps just have a walk around the block. Try a bit of brainstorming yourself, I think as stroke survivors and carers we learn to be really creative in finding ways to live, we sometimes need to apply that to ourselves as well as our stroke survivors! This might sound obvious, but what does your wife think - have you chatted around the subject with her? We always have a little chat after I've been out about how we both felt.
I wish you lots of luck, persevere a bit - there's nothing wrong with you having goals too.
Let me know how you get on!

Cerebellar stroke

My sister had a cerebellar stroke 5 weeks ago and is permanently dizzy and vomits all the time. Her husband has continually requested help from doctors and despite being given sickness pills the vomiting continues. She is losing weight and we are all very worried about her. Her physio was so concerned that she requested she had injections for the sickness which start tomorrow. She has no paralysis or speech problems just this dreadful sickness. Wonder if anyone else has had the same problems and if so how long did it last?

Cerebellar stroke vomiting

Hi. I had this too but my dr. Gave me zofran and meclezine. Helps calm down the vestibular system which is commonly damaged from crrebrllar stroke. This is the inner ear where you body keeps balance and orientation to gravity. Physical therapy is needed to help fix the damage. the catch is you cannot start therapy until you are somewhat under control because you can not take much of the meds while you're in therapy. In the u.s. this is where I found help. Maybe you can use this to find someplace similar near you. and .

take those drugs like they're candy for a few days to start the calming.

Cerebellar str9ke

Think I would go with her to her doctor and do the very unBritish thing -make a big fuss and DEMAND something is done to help your sister/

random care seemscommon

You have not mentioned in your message anything about your own stroke

hi the reason being I battle

hi the reason being I battle write anything, not all strokes the same and 2 in eight months left me with huge battle. writing reading talking walking balance everything at present difficult extremely !

hi the reason being I battle4

Then well done you, You have managed to find,type and post messages on this website. You just can't give up so I hope to hear more about yourself,

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Stroke Unit/Hospital

could someone please inform me if stroke nurses have ro specialise in that area when they study? It's just that from my own experiences, they don't seem to understand the devastation a stroke can deliver nor how much a stroke survivor wishes ro get back to rheir old selves. Surely a bit of empathy is not a lor to ask?

I remember,a nurse in a stroke ward, where I was the youngest and only one who couldn't see properly, tell me that I was in C hospital NOT C Hotel. On reflection and feeling more capable now (this was in Oct. 2013) I am cross Ididn't report her to the Matron.....................yes there was a Matron/

Hi random care seems common!!

Hi random care seems common!! Not seen stroke nurse!

They would have general training RGN where they might learn something about strokes! Say might as theory not practice for all depends which wards they do!

Might then do other short courses I guess would need to!

Think whole lacking compassion issue is biggest issue and seems lottery -some excellent care others like me -& you to a point none or poor care.


Take care insist help if needed.


Hi random care seems common

Hi Chris

My confidence was at an all time low when I left the stroke unit after one month. Have I got it all wrong and you are meant to leave Hospital feeling a lot worse than when you entered it? Silly me. I assumed it would help me to feel better. Not being used to staying in a hospital, I thought the nurses would have the empathy,kindness and general skill necessary for the job/profession. In fairness, the locals did not seem to be as suited to the job as those from further climes and of different religious persuasions and seemed more cliquey if I think about it. Where are you based in the uk by the way?

oh dear sorry hear this. I am

oh dear sorry hear this. I am in SW region. been 100% nightmare of year so far!
how you now?

No I don't think it's a stroke......

I had a similar experience two and a half years back. Definite stroke symptoms, tingling, intermittent numbness, difficulty walking, out of breath, plus seeing stars in my field of vision at times. Went to Doc's told I had Anaemia,cue blood test, - severe iron deficiency anaemia, cue three units of blood, felt fine for one day then, vertigo, pain in head, vomiting, this on a Friday night, spent night with pains in both arms, then left arm went numb, went to A and E on Saturday teatime (husband took me in the car) and, eventually, two days later (our local hospital did not do scans on a Sunday) got ct scan. Informed it was two strokes. Was on an ordinary ward not a stroke ward. Seen very briefly by Stroke nurse who gave me loads of information leaflets I left after four nights with meds. Now on relevant meds. Arm still numb but mostly regained use of it but feels heavy a lot of the time, Never saw a physio. Got an ambulatory 24 hour check six weeks after stroke and that was it apart from occasional blood tests at docs. Anyway still here and still feeling bloody-minded about it all. Never smoked either. Ha!

Hi. Sorry you've had little

Hi. Sorry you've had little care ! My story -registrar decided I wanted be ill missed mri report had 2 strokes -clot and bleed different places!

Now seeing new team next Monday.

Stay determined -it helps I feel!

Insist care if needed though!

Take care of you, rest exercise when you can and no smoking! Never smoked either!! It's not only "cause" !!



i am 52 and last sun at 11.30 am a blood clot travelled to my brain and caused a stroke , my family where told i probably wouldn't make it as my pupils had been fixed from leaving home , the doc went in through my groin and grabbed the clot from the base of my brain , and i woke up ,chatting away to the nurse like nothing was wrong then i saw family crying , nurses hugging and doctors shaking their heads , because i really shouldn't have recovered , let alone fully, i can only thank everyone involved for my amazing care as i also have parkinsons(5yrs), i feel it has given me something back and thankfully not taken anything away , i am truly blessed , there is a lot more to this story , this is just the basic info

Wow! That doesn't sound

Wow! That doesn't sound possible

Sounds unusual !

Sounds unusual !

What should I now do?

communication wanted

I am a young 66year old female who had an ischemic stroke in Spain last August. As a result of this, I now have a few problems and I need to talk to someone who has had similar ones which may now have been resolved……………..or not as may be the case. I have Ptosis of both eyes i.e. the eyelids of both eyes do not open unaided ( have found Steristrips to be the most successful way of doing this). I have vision in each eye but double vision if both eyes are open at the same time as I have a bad squint. This is due to 3rd nerve damage,it seems. I also cannot balance to walk due toThalamus damage.PLEASE CAN YOU HELP?

Travel insurance

Hi Iam Graeme 41,

I had bilateral stroke , I have been lucky , my fitness was high before so hopeful

I need some advice or recommendations for holiday insurance

Any help please

Thanks Graeme

New today

Hi. At 51 with complex medical history had two strokes this year

First one missed had every symptom and sign the hospital said not a stroke!! Second one a bleed.

Doing well considering no treatment or care and millions healthcare errors.

Exhausted, bit emotional week discovering it was two strokes!!

Hope right place to say hello. Not really clear for me right now.

Thankfully determination will help me push forward somehow.


Hi Chris

Hi Chris

I have just read your post and wanted to reply.
My mum has had 2 strokes, one in 2010 and one a few months ago.
She is also young like you, a 54.
This seems to be the right place to say hello, I just registed today, more so to see what help I can get for my mum.
I know she struggles and doesnt tell me the half of it but I know.
Determination is the one thing you must keep.
Read peoples posts on here and talk about it as much as you want.
Im glad there is a place like this for people to come and talk.
I have sent my mum the link in the hope she will come on tooand have a browse to realise she isnt on her own.

HI Chris

Dear Rebeccalou84

Hello! I have only just registered too, hoping to get in contact with people/persons in similar situations. I am now really fed up and just want things to get "back to normal". My husband is struggling too though he would never admit that.

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Thanks. See another

Thanks. See another consultant Monday results last scan etc then! Trying hard. Hope mum -your mum doing ok.


hi chris and glad to hear your doing reasonably well! I know where your at,i think! had a/f for four years then a stroke in april this year and still im mystified by it all. as for health care....had stoke on Friday,hospital,then chucked out first thing Monday!! still seeing a neuro therapist and physios and next week off to orthotics to get my foot working again. I too get tired still,so my advice to is when your tired,whenever or what ever the time is,sleep. its the brains way of healing itself,thats what im told anyway.
be strong,its a long road but you will get there

Hi Simon, thanks. See new

Hi Simon, thanks. See new consultant Monday afternoon! Had recent mri see changes etc if any since strokes. Been nightmare first consultant team rather useless admitted their errors!
Yes I'm learning ways cope and slow progress better none!!

Take one day at time.



Hi Simon

I just read your post to Chris and thought how hoenst and lovely it was.
You are so right in the fact they seem to treat you then sort of leave you to it.
My mum has had 2 strokes, one in 2010 and one a few months ago.
She is also young like you, a 54.
This seems to be the right place to say hello, I just registed today, more so to see what help I can get for my mum.
I know she struggles and doesnt tell me the half of it but I know.
Determination is the one thing you must keep.
I think people tend to think that they should get better quicker than they do, forgetting that its a stroke and how major they are to you.
As you say, its a long road but you will get there.
I am glad there are people like you on here for other stroke survivors to talk to. x

Feeling down

I know its stupid cos I have physically returned to near normal within only 6 weeks but I feel so depressed, I find no joy in anything, I cry over nothing and constantly expect to just drop down dead any second. Can anyone relate / give advice? Thanks x

Feeling down

I had my stroke nearly 3 years ago and still have my bad day were I just want to give up and stop fighting but thankfully as time goes on I'm having more and more good days. Speck to your doctor and see if you can get some counseling it good to talk about what happens. Don't be scared to ask question to put your mind at rest.

About the crying I still cry at anything my emotions are up the left. I cry when others are happy, & laugh when someone dies, just let people know that this will happen.

Hope this helps

second bleed

Hi I'm not sure if this is the right place to post but I need some advice. My 63 year old mum had a major stroke 4.5 months ago. It was a bleed and affected her right side and speech mainly with some memory and spacial awareness issues, fatigue and incontinence. Well after 4 months in hospital/rehab she has recovered incredibly. Regaining continence, speech and cognitive skills and gaining some hand and arm movement and walking with a frame. She walked out of hospital. However yesterday her speech went again so we took her to hospital and it seems she has a small bleed in the same place as before. Her speech has gone, she is incontinent again and very confused. We are hoping it's just a set back but am wondering if anyone else has had experience of this and knows what the likely outcomes might be. As with the initial stroke drs are reluctant to predict anything so we are in that uncertain position again! We are so upset after she's done so well and been so determined and positive.

communication wanted

I am a young 66year old female who had an ischemic stroke in Spain last August. As a result of this, I now have a few problems and I need to talk to someone who has had similar ones which may now have been resolved……………..or not as may be the case. I have Ptosis of both eyes i.e. the eyelids of both eyes do not open unaided ( have found Steristrips to be the most successful way of doing this). I have vision in each eye but double vision if both eyes are open at the same time as I have a bad squint. This is due to 3rd nerve damage,it seems. I also cannot balance to walk due toThalamus damage.PLEASE CAN YOU HELP?

Hi sorry tough time. Had 2

Hi sorry tough time. Had 2 strokes this year one clot then bleed both ignored by drs and only now proven on scan so no care , physio speech etc.
I knew, friends knew ,drs said not sure what's wrong, scanned only half brain missed it......disastrous care.

Not sure ways suggest help. Do eye drs have ideas? Physio helping balance?
I joined a small local gym because no diagnosis no help. Fantastic personal trainer has helped me ways dealing with balance. Been twice week for month and differences amazing worth every penny. Since knowing diagnosis makes sense things find very hard. Others there working hard really supportive when I crawl in dragging leg when tired etc. Think extreme hard work with caution not overdo is only way. Get right help physio,gym, etc.

Chat soon.



My stroke,12 months ago,has left me with constant,overwhelming, exhaustion.
My GP, together with my stroke consultant, have prescribed Mirtazapine and Amantadine with no success. They are considering Modafinil.
Does anyone have experience of using this drug and, if so did it help ?
Any information about help in overcoming this continuing tiredness would be appreciated.

selling a stroke adapted car

Hello all

My late father was a stroke sufferer who sadly has now passed.
I am trying to sell his car which has a 9 way lodgesons adaptation suitable for anyone with a single arm disability.

I would really like it to be made use of - rather than selling it to someone who wont use the adaptation.

I know how much it meant to my Dad when he got the car adapted - it gave him back his freedom and cheered him up greatly.
does anybody know of anywhere I can advertise the car where it would be visible to people with similar mobility issues.
I didn't want to post it on here as an advert as I thought that would be wrong.
I'd really appreciate any advice or pointers .
kind regards

post stroke 7 months

I would like some information regarding social activities around Bingley and Bradford for my Husband who had a stroke last October.
Can anyone help please?

Hi have you tried help line?

Hi have you tried help line? What about local library for local things going on?