My husband (aged 54) had malignant hypertension and a brain bleed 5 weeks ago. It left him with very bad double vision and blurriness, memory issues, but thankfully minimal limb function loss. My world is upside-down but work have been great and I am back part time for now. The vision team in the local hospital prescribed a prism for the double vision and already the vision has improved enough so my husband finds he can no longer see through the prism, which is fantastic. There are little victories each day but I feel terrible guilt about being frustrated and angry that my husband is not the same person anymore. It is like the Bodysnatchers (sci-fi film) have replaced him with someone who is nearly the same but not quite? Our life was wonderful before, going for long walks on the coast, he loves gardening and growing our own food on our small patch. We talk about him returning to pottering around when the weather improves but my heart breaks to see what this has done to him. I am mostly teetering on bursting into tears everywhere I go. I have not shared much in work as I cannot cope with the sympathy and kind words. This may sound weird but I feel I need to stay strong for my husband.
May I ask if anyone felt guilty/angry in the early days? I am thankful that he is already having small walks around the supermarket with me and his sleepiness is improving so his spirits are still up. Should I gently push him a little to try and extend his range of tasks? The hospital have not provided any support as he was able to "live independently" which he certainly wasn't on discharge. I know he won't probably return to how he was but I would appreciate any advice in the early days to help me help him reach his goals. thank you.