My mother (77) had a stroke 10 weeks ago and has returned home for the last 4 weeks. I have looked through this forum and it has provided me with great comfort that things do and can get better. I am so glad I have found this forum as it does offer good sensible advice and support and it is a credit to all members.
My mother appears to have physically made a good recovery as she has not lost the ability to talk, walk, or look after herself. She has short term memory loss which she finds very frustrating. But she has had the support put in place to her requirements. She has a 3 (2hr at time) visits a day to help with bathing, meds and meals. Plus taking her out during the day for coffee and shopping. She has a good network of friends who arrange to see her outside of the care hours.
However she has suffered from anxiety and depression and from the forum and medical advice I understand this is common. She has been prescribed anti depressants and to aid the anxiety and now at night at her request as a short term measure until we as a family can organise our lives, night care cover was put in as well as the day time care.
However this has only seemed to increase her anxiety drastically and she is becoming totally focussed on medicines, other aliments and cannot cope with the short periods she is alone. I feel at the moment that the anxiety and depression are a bigger issue than the affects of the stroke and as cognitive harder to tackle
I am about to embark on 4 months of living with my mother and care overnight, two week days and all weekends for her. I have the full support of my wife but I envisage it will be tough.
From the forum I see that we need to be patient and understanding install a time table of events and activities.
My main concern is my mothers mind set, in that I see many references to getting enough sleep, having a positive mind, sharing the joys of completing tasks and taking it day by day.
My big concern on this is the positive mind as clearly my mother has not got this and is dwelling on when she will have her next stroke and her next pill that keep her alive (her thoughts).
Has anyone got any advice in how to try and install a positive mind set. As I am struggling at the moment to get my mother to think that way. Comparing to other Stroke victims with different issue gives it the appearance of one one-upmanship
I hope over the months to share my experiences and in time as I build up confidence in this arena contribute to others in similar situations