Mentally going downhill

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I had my stroke 8months ago due to high blood pressure. The er thought I had 2others less than 24hrs prior. I was able to feel great up to about a month ago,. Since I've felt tremendous aches in my knees,. I know I've gained weight as I'm not as active as I was previously,. Depression is kicking in and I'm only 45years old
Please help

Dear Heather
I have monitored my weight on a weekly basis and I reckon it is essential that we keep around our ideal weight. I too have quite severe pains in several joints and have not a clue why. I stopped statins because they gave me joint pains, but the current pain I can not account for. As you probably know, stroke emotions do leech masses of depressive waves, perhaps even daily. It is so important we fight them off before they get a grip. My mantra is to smile four times a day. If you are feeling miserable then a forced or false or fake smile will do. There are strong medical reasons why a smile works. Beyond my ability to explain, but its not just a fad, it really works.
I also list my goals. Drive for two hours, go on holiday, walk five miles and so on. I then put mileposts against each goal, being how I am going to achieve those goals.

I like to sit and think of all the things I can do, as compared to day 1 after stroke. I also like to think about why you and I survived when so many people die. I also refuse to think of it as my stroke. I didn't want it nor choose it.

Have you escaped the horrors of stroke fatigue ? Again, if you have escaped that one then you are again specially chosen.
At 45 you are the ideal age for recovery. Old enough to be wise. Young enough to have a faster recovery. And young enough to have a great new life when you have settled in to your new person.

Don't give up. You have come this far.
Best wishes

There seems to be no explanation for the aches and pains that follow having a stroke, some would be due to sheer clumsiness but that doesn't explain all of them. I get a lot of aches from my fingers and some from my knees and legs if I try pushing my boundaries.
I'm sorry, I can suggest no answers, but you have my sympathy!



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