Just need to vent

Hi there.
I've been my hubbies primary carer for over 3 years now. It has been a long road for both of us, to say the least, but we have tried to be positive. Hubby is affected on his right side, has memory problems plus Aphasia so working out what he is trying to say is a task in itself........unless he is annoyed, then he can swear as clear as day, which is apparently unique in his circumstances. He had a bad epileptic fit a couple of months ago and ever since then he seems to have gradually deteriorated. This past week has been a nightmare as he seems to have just given up making any effort. I'm finding it very difficult to hold my emotions in check, I just want to cry all the time. It's not helpful that I have recently had my own health issues and am just coming to terms with that. I just don't know how to motivate him back to 'himself'. I feel very selfish but I am going stir crazy too. I haven't been out of the house for weeks because he can't be left alone and there is nobody I can ask to sit with him. He won't let me take him out in the wheelchair so that I can go for a walk. Once I went out at 3am but when I got back he was screaming for me so I just can't chance it any more. So frustrated that he won't let me help him. OK vent over, I'll be fine now.

Sun, 10/15/2017 - 6:50am
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