Newbie here needing advice

Hi, new to this forum :) My dad had a severe stroke four years ago, he wasn't expected to survive. Since then he lived with his ex partner for three years who didn't care for him. I managed to get him home last December. He has left side paralysis, partial sight, partial hearing and memory problems. Because of his ex's situation, when he returned home from hospital, I feel he went 'off grid' so to speak, he has to take some responsibility for that as he didn't want help. So he had three years of no help at all. Since being with me, we attend physio (privately) every week and we've made some improvement with walking (he has movement in his hip). What I find really hard to deal with is his frustration and the fact he takes that out on his paralysed limbs. He'll punch his arm, kick his leg, harm himself because he feels they are useless. He wanted to break his arm a couple of days ago. Does anyone else have this issue and how do you deal with it? I want him to attend Stroke Club, I'm hoping that if he can meet other survivors he might find something positive about his situation. He gets very frustrated that he can't dress himself and I'm pretty sure there must be some way of learning techniques, I just don't know where to look. Look forward to hearing from you, and thank you for listening.

Fri, 11/10/2017 - 12:12pm
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